Have you met him? It is a possibility for some of you, but for most of you it is not! My Dad has this way about him, he is really nice to random strangers. He goes out of his way for co-workers, and some times family and friends. Many people say he is a great guy. He is a Texas "Good Ol' Boy", even though he was born and raised in Tennessee.If you know my Dad you know he can easily be horrible! Horrible to anyone and everyone! But especially to his children, and those that he considers his. I'm guessing he thinks of it as tough love...but to us it is anything but love! It is so hard to be his child, you never know how he will react...nothing ever happens the same way twice! NOTHING!
When Mr. K and I told him I was pregnant. He ignored me, he didn't acknowledge it for two weeks. Not until we were furniture shopping for him a new recliner. He kept sitting down in the different chairs and making these funny movements he would say "this could work" or "no this won't work". When Mom finally asked him what he was doing he said, "well I'm going to need room to hold two babies!" From then on out he couldn't stop talking about them!
Last week he got angry at my uncles birthday dinner. So angry that he got up and left, forcing my mother to go with him. He got angry at Mr. K, for nothing! He didn't talk to me for three days.
This is not the first time. It won't be the last time! I just wish I understood him. I wish I could help him with his anger issues.
And I hope more than anything they are not hereditary.
I am very angry at him today, as you can probably tell! I love my Dad, I just need to get this off my chest!
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Only he can help with his anger issues. Self-awareness and self-improvement are two keys to getting better. Your father has neither and I'm not sure he ever will. All you can do is help yourself to learn how to deal, or not deal, with him. It could be biological, and in that case is will be hereditary, but that is where therapy and meds come in. Plus I think you have self-awareness and the want to be a better person. Therefore you won't be like him if you utilize the tools available to you. And of course all of the support you have around you! Love you!!
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