Please do not be offended by this post it is just my thoughts and feelings...
I went to High School with a girl, I wouldn't say we were friends exactly but we knew each other...she is my friend on FB, not that that means anything.
A few years after HS she gave birth to a little girl at 24 weeks. After over a year in the NICU and more than a dozen surgeries she came home. Which we all know is a miracle and amazing! The little girl has several very severe health conditions and now she has started having seizures...which I am sure must be terrifying and difficult for her parents to watch. I can not imagine the stress and pain that they go through on a daily basis. And I do feel for them, I really do.
But over the last few weeks her status updates have been about how she hates her life, how much of a struggle it is to be ____ parent and how life is not fair.
She is absolutely right...life is not fair! And I can not imagine what her life is like, but her daughter is with her. She is not in heaven, with MyGirls or any of your babies for that matter. Some days I want to say to her that it could be worse...but I can't imagine ever doing that to anyone! I just wish there was a way for me to make her see show her how much different things could have been. And how blessed she really is.
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I believe we all at times live in our own little worlds and when things are going bad in our world, we need to tell others to help ease our pain. Not thinking that other people's lives could be far worse off than what we are dealing with at that moment. I think there are ways to express to people that you are empathizing with their suffering but at the same time making them realize that there "a silver lining" to it as well (your daughter is here on earth, rejoice in that). It is a fine line you walk because you might lose a friendship, but if you don't be an advocate for yourself and your feelings, no one will.
I know what you mean...I am sure her life is difficult and stresful with such a sick baby, but at least she has her here with her...lucky her! It is all a matter of perspective I guess. xx
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